As the weather gets colder and the Christmas decorations go up, it can prove to be an almost unbearable time of year for those experiencing the recent death of a loved one. Regardless of how you spent the holidays prior to the death of your loved one, going through the holidays without them can be incredibly hard. There seems to be some societal expectation that we all must be cheery and bright and spend our days with our loving family. For people that don’t fit that picture of holiday cheer these days can feel painful and unending. The music is unceasing, the loneliness is aching and the grief can be profound and exhausting. If you find yourself dreading the holidays this year, please just remember, you are not alone. Many of us struggle this time of year.
As we approach the holidays the following strategies may be helpful. Some may work for you and others may not but anything to help you get through might be useful. to consider.
Holiday Hope: Remembering Loved Ones Druing Special Times of the Year. Patricia Zalaznik, Fairview Press 1998. pp 13-17.
The Bereavment Ministry Program: A Comprehensive Guide for Churches. Jan Nelson & David Aaker, Ave Maria Press, 1998